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📷 Just a little photo dump of our bi-annual Spallino girls shopping trip...& it’s not over yet! 💗 This quality time together is so special to me. As most of you know (if you’ve been here for a while), my sisters and mommy are my best friends...It is WILD to think that on our next trip, we will be pushing Olivia’s baby in a stroller, and not the 2lb yorkie! 🥰 Swipe to see my face when @robertcroak says I can pick out my own birthday present! (High key, I’ll probably just ask for Bitcoin. I’ve been getting so much wiser about how I spend $$$ lately. Be proud y’all). Anyone else into crypto out there? Drop a comment if you want @robertcroak and I to share more about it! 💃🏻Yes, my birthday is coming up on the 31st. I totally resonate with Vedic astrology though (anyone else?!), thanks to @astrologynow_podcast. So don’t let me catch any of y’all calling me a Gemini ♊️ I’m Taurus ♉️ as fawkkkkk 😏 #taurus #gemini #houstontx #girlstrip #mysistersaremybestfriends #womenincrypto #halfhippiehalfbougie #summer2021 #springblazer

Just popping in to say, I saw my first burlesque show. And if loving both men and women is a sin, I love being a sinner 🤩 SWIPE TO GET A TASTE 👅 If you go to #Miami, you must go to #Faena JUST for the #burlesque. By the end of the first song, I was obsessed with @katcunning’s voice. I had no idea they literally wrote and performed their music the entire show. It’s all from their soul. So now I must go back, and watch it again, and try to hold back from singing every single word (because it would drive @robertcroak mad). 🥲 Now if you’re reading this, tag Kat! I want them on my podcast! #KatCunning #bisexual #burlesqueshow #purityculture #deconstructing #deconstruction

🥲 Some days, I wake up and tell little Sophia I am sorry I ever made her feel like she had to straighten her hair or be straight to be fully loved. 🧠 The more I know, the more I don’t know, the more I’m sure of being unsure, and embracing the magic of it all. 📦 Whatever box you’re keeping yourself in, come out! 😩 Confining Religion. Family’s Rules. Purity Culture. Societal Norms...What lies did you learn as a child, but you are unlearning now? 🎤 Tell me in the comments! I’ll go first. 1. A loving God might send me to hell
2. Divorce taints your soul
3. Adults have the right to spank you and you deserve it
4. Women and men can get married, but that’s the only “real marriage”
5. If you have sex before marriage, your relationship is doomed and you’re actively sinning
6. Obey your parents or other adults without questioning anything
7. Anyone else, but Christians, will be die and go to hell if I don’t tell them about my Jesus. There’s only one “real” way to God. Follow @nakedpastor for more deconstruction content. This post was inspired by him! #nakedpastor #unlearning #deconstruction #loveislove #godislove #purelove #purityculturesurvivor

For what is a girl, what has she got?
If not herself, then she has naught.
To say the things she truly feels
& not the words of one who kneels.
The record shows I took the blows
And did it my way.
Yes, it was my way.
👑🌈✨
Except for my hair.
She cannot be tamed.
She does things “her way.” 🥺 If you’re on the path of changing your beliefs or revealing your sexuality, not everybody is going to be okay with “your way.” To that, I say... 👏 LIVE YOUR TRUTH. & KEEP LIVING IT LOUDLY. & LET THOSE WHO FALL OFF YOUR PATH, FALL OFF WITH LOVE. IT’S THE SAME SOPHIA HERE, EXCEPT SHE IS BRAVE ENOUGH TO SAY WHAT SHE HAS TO SAY. WHEN YOU REJECT ME NOW, YOU REJECT 7 YEAR OLD SOPHIA. BUT IT’S OK. SHE FORGIVES YOU. SHE IS DONE SEEKING APPROVAL FROM ANYONE. Anyone else out there feels the same? 💃🏻Be on the look out for my favorite podcast episode yet. It comes out tomorrow. Any guesses on topics or who my very special guest is?! #franksinatra #myway #safetobeme #selflove #spiritualdevelopment #spirituallybougie #halfhippiehalfbougie #curlygirl #ididitmyway #exvangelical #purityculturesucks #curlygirlmethod #louisvuittonwall

Does this swimsuit make my abdominal hernia look good? YEP. Thanks, @millihighlands 🤍 🤤 & the shoes. Don’t get me started on the shoes! I got some wedges for photos & flats to walk the rest of the day! ❗️Also I noticed @victoria.glam’s saline tattoo removal is working SO MUCH BETTER than the painful laser treatments. [SWIPE TO SEE PROGRESS] If you haven’t followed my tale of tragic tattoo removal, I spent over 2k on laser treatments that don’t work. I switched to Victoria, & she uses saline instead. It’s so much less painful & more effective (about the same price per sesh). I wish I knew about her saline treatments before I squandered 2k on laser. Oh well, you live & you learn, & that’s why I share with y’all. 😫Learn from my life lessons... ❗️Mistake #1 Never being brave enough to wear a white swimsuit per my mom’s advice (until today). You don’t need to be brave when the material is this high quality & hugs you in all the right places. It’s not see through, & makes you feel fabulous. If I can look this good with a hernia, so can you. Just dm @millihighlands & scoop one up (there’s probably like 2 left, so jump on it) ❕LESSON: WHITE MAKES YOUR TAN LOOK 🔥 ❗️Mistake #2 Getting a tattoo out of rebellion in college only to realize it’s really not my personal style & spending $$$$$ to get it off my body. ❕LESSON: THE PERSON/RELIGION/STRUCTURE/YOU’RE REBELLING AGAINST DOESN’T CARE & DOESN’T HAVE TO PAY FOR THE REMOVAL. HONOR YOURSELF, NOT OTHERS, WHETHER THAT MEANS GETTING OR ABSTAINING FROM TATTOOS. ❗️Mistake #3 Getting a bellybutton ring & not listening to my intuition in college. My body was rejecting it, & saying no. I threw up & passed out on the table, but still chose to go through with it. Now I’m bloated, can’t workout, in pain, & have to wait to have surgery! ❕LESSON: LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION BEFORE YOUR BODY HAS TO PHYSICALLY EJECT SCAR TISSUE OUT OF YOUR ABDOMEN & YOU HAVE WEAR MUMUS UNTIL YOU HAVE A SURGERY. ❗️Mistake #4 Trying to look so cool all the time by wearing heels all day. ❕ It’s not worth the pain. Always bring an extra pair of flats with you. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk. -S

No matter who tries to prove you wrong, stand tall knowing ✨YOUR TRUTH✨ is right for you. {swipe to the end for the sexiest shot} 😔When I was a kid, I was brought up believing the truth, GOD, rules, my identify was all black or white, hot or cold, yes or no. One truth. Ignorance is NOT bliss. Ignorance is TRAUMA. 🤯Back then, I was told honoring the “in between,” asking Qs, or multiple things being true at once—that “open minded” view was coming from a confused, lukewarm, unsaved soul. 🧐God gave me a 🧠, so I ask questions. I’ve chosen a new way of knowing the truth...accepting I don’t know everything. 🏳️‍🌈From a young age, I had to hide my “in between” sexuality. To this day, speaking about the truth I’ve known since I was 5yrs old offends certain family members. HOW COULD A PERFECT, INNOCENT CHILD’S EXPERIENCE OFFEND A GROWN MAN? Because the church has taught our parents’ generation that they will pay for the “sin” of their children & that being gay is a “sin.” L O FUCKING L. It wasn’t strategically placed the Bible until 1946. 💔It’s hurt my heart since I was 5, & it hurts even more today. But that’s where I am called to forgive again & again. I know one day my unconditional love from the God I know will transform this world. So I’ll keep speaking my truth in love even when I feel rejected by loved ones. 🙏🏽For some of you, it’s not safe to do this, so you have to set stronger boundaries & cut people out. If that’s what you’re called to do at this time, honor that. Honor you. 🙌So what’s true? I find the beauty of Divine to be the beauty of the Mystery. I only can know for certain what I feel when I connect to God, but that looks different for us all. ♾God loves me & has loved me forever — even when I acknowledge my queerness, have pre-marital sex (yum), & marry the man I love double my age. 😏 💎A diamond has many facets & if you look from a different perspective, you will see that view is true too. If you want to hear more about my deconstruction journey, listen to my show, Enlightened (link in bio). Check out @godisgrey’s book #OnHerKnees, us #PurityCulture kids have some 💩 to work through, but we will overcome together.

Two girls who dig men double their age walk into a bar... Can’t believe we ✨finally✨ met irl, @erica35mm ❤️ Thanks for being the same human I’ve known for two years. Sometimes, I meet people from the internet, and I’m highly disappointed because they are pretentious or complete weirdos. 😩 Erica is exactly who she says she is. 🥳 We just happen to be two girls that LOVE older men. ❤️ And we sure had a hilarious night! Thanks for showing us your beautiful city, Erica! 😅Have you ever met an internet friend and it was weird irl? Have you ever meet an internet friend and it was so fun? Tell me! #agegap #agegaprelationship #agegaplove #marryingmillions #Miami #FaenaMiamiBeach #loveislove #dateoldermen #datinghacks #meetinginternetfriends

🥺 THIS IS WHAT I HAVE LEARNED FROM BREAKUPS & DIVORCE: Don’t allow bitterness to take root. Don’t allow what someone else did to hurt you be the lens you see life and people through. I’ve been writing a song about it. And yes, I’ll be sharing it soon. 🎵 🧘🏻‍♀️ How are you feeling in THIS moment? Pause Check in. Unclench your jaw, your heart, your fists, and open your hands to something new, something better, something that feels good. 😎 Take off the salty shades, as vulnerable and scary as it might make you feel...because it’s the only way to possibly experience all the vibrant colors of life again. 🌈 As long as you choose to create peace inside, no pain can win. But it’s a practice we must choose again and again. 👁 Cultivate that peace by looking for yourself in the eyes of others (the new people in your life, the people you vibe with, AND especially the people that did you dirty). Cultivate that peace by looking into your own eyes and forgiving yourself for not being who you wish you were/or how you chose to act at that time. Forgive yourself for holding on this long. 🕊 It takes courage to choose forgiveness over bitterness and humility to see with eyes of compassion, but you CAN do it. I know you can, only because I didn’t think I could, but with some consistent inner work, I healed. And that healing is a practice I put into action everyday in my wonderful relationships. I keep healing and growing for me...and for the world I touch (all the people in my life). Do the work. Do it for you, your heart, your mind...but also for YOUR WORLD. #innerpeace #chooselove #selfhelp #personaldevelopment #forgiveness #breakupquotes #divorcequotes #healingquotes #innerhealing #boundaries #selflove #workingonmyself #relationshipquotes

I TOOK N👀DS & IT’S MY NEW PODCAST SHOW COVER ART. 😏 SWIPE TO SEE IT! 🛁 I think this vibe is entirely more fitting for what we talk about on the show (the art of s£x, #relationshipdynamics, human s€xuality, leaving religious constructs, and creating a dream life that is free — free of all things that weigh us down, including #purityculture aka my specific flavor of #religioustrauma! 💋 So hi, that’s me NAKIE! Don’t you think it’s much more fitting for my show, than the old *virg1n, Christian, harpist Sophia* (who is stone cold dead as Snow White in a golden and glass casket because princes don’t f*cking show up to give you a single kiss to keep you alive). 🥲 Except @robertcroak — he kinda did that, but hear me out — I’ve evolved so much since we met. But the cool part is he just watered me while I did my own growing. 💦Get your head out of the gutter 😉 JK. Nasty thoughts are welcome here! They are celebrated here! 🥂 You know I got that kinda watering too...because s*x was a “no no” for so long for me, and this journey together (and lots of sinful, dirty, premarital 🍆) is healing me! 👏For once in my life, I was aware enough to choose life experiences and a partner that expanded me, all of me, and not made me feel small. So thank you, for being here as I evolve, to water me metaphorically and all the ways, @robertcroak 😏 and for being the BEST INSTAGRAM/PODCAST ART BOYFRIEND PHOTOGRAPHER in the whole world. 🎙On the middle slide, I tagged other INCREDIBLE podcasters, so if you like my show, go follow them! THEN GO LISTEN TO TODAY’S SHOW WITH @dr.carolyn.daitch IF YOU BATTLE ANXIETY OR DEPRESSION. It’s for you. 🙏🏽 If you’re so chill that you don’t have issues like me, send this episode to encourage an anxious friend! You know where to find the link, babe. #enlightened #spiritualbutnotreligious #spiritualgrowth #personaldevelopment #personaldevelopmentjunkie #letsgrowtogether #loveislove #religiousfreedom #godisgrey #spiritualshit #halfhippiehalfbougie

All we did was eat in Miami, so I over-flexed for these photos and almost fell off the chair. 🥗🍉🥑🍒 😬And I was totally anxious someone would judge me for flexing so hard. It’s a trivial example of anxiety I deal with. But I got much bigger anxiety fish to fry and overcome. 🌧Sometimes, I battle anxiety. After battling daRona for over three weeks, I’ve experienced more anxiety, depression, and even anger (something I’ve never dealt with before). But I’m always working to improve my mental health naturally. ☀️ 🧠If you are too, I have a podcast episode coming out tomorrow with @dr.carolyn.daitch that shares so many tools that can help us bougie, but spiritual babes cope with what’s going on up there. So go subscribe for FREE now — you know where to find the link🥰 📸: @robertcroak (always making me feel like the goddess I am) #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #firstdatejitters #anxietyrelief #anxietysupport #depressionawareness #selfcare #selfcaretools #enlightenedthepodcast #hypnosis

“Love should make you feel both held and free.” — @glennondoyle Whether that’s “love” in relationships or religion, I hope you feel ✨FREE✨ especially on days like today. Happy Easter to those who celebrate! #happyeaster #deconstruction #openheart #agegap #spiritualbutnotreligious #agegaprelationship #somuchlove #christconsciousness #iloveyoujesus

🌈WHY IS EVERYONE GAY ALL OF A SUDDEN?!🌈 Thank you for asking. “BLESSED ARE THOSE WHO MAKE THINGS AWKWARD. FOR THEY WAKE US UP AND MOVE US FORWARD.” — @glennondoyle 🏳️‍🌈 If you’re a part of the LGBTQIA+ community too, when did you “know” vs. when you let the world know? What made you finally feel ready to share? 🏳️‍⚧️ 🥲And for anyone wondering, this isn’t my coming out bi video. Yes, I have talked about this before online — just not as explicitly. I have known this was my truth since I was 5 years old. Don’t worry, my partner has always known and it doesn’t affect our relationship in a negative way. Why would it? ✨If this is a conversation you enjoy exploring, subscribe to ENLIGHTENED the podcast — where we talk all about personal development, spirituality, and sexuality. In fact, today I am interviewing one of my favorite TT stars who happens to be a gay man that shares his journey. The episode won’t be out for a little while, so be patient. But it’s coming. Just know my show is a safe place to ask the hard questions. And even if I don’t have all the answers, I’ll hold space for the wondering. If you enjoy my content and need help processing religious trauma or celebrating your sexuality, you will probably also like following my friends: @revkarla
@godisgrey
@laurendeleary
@nick_norcia
@talkpuritytome #glennondoyle #humansexuality #loveislove #godisgrey #revkarla #laurendeleary #deconstruction #deconstruct #nicknorcia #purityculture #untamed #untamedbook #getuntamed #lgbtq #lgbtqia #exvangelical

PRETTY WOMAN, yeah, yeah, yeah 🎶 ⚠️ We spill the DIRTY DETAILS of our relationship...and the TEA IS HOT 🥵 Listen to the newest episode of my podcast, ENLIGHTENED, featuring my baby bear, @robertcroak. 💦 We dig into juicy topics like... ❤️We share the truth of how we met!
✈️ Our #longdistance journey
💰Was I ever just a sugar baby?
🛏How long we waited to hook up
🙃Does Robert care that I’m #bisexual?
👩‍❤️‍👨Tips on creating #consciouspartnership
and much, much more! 🎙 You can find ENLIGHTENED in the link in my bio, and also on Apple, Google, and Spotify Podcasts! Enjoy, then send the link to a friend! #enlightened #relationshipadvice #agegap #agegaprelationship #karensgonewild #datingstory #lovestory #spillthetea #sugarbabylove #loveislove #prettywoman #prettywomanmovie

“You will receive the message you give, because it is the message you WANT. You may believe that you judge your sisters by the messages they give you, but YOU have judged them by the message you give to them. Do not attribute your denial of joy to them, or you cannot see the spark in them that could bring joy to you. It is the denial of that spark that brings depression, and whenever you see your sisters without it, you are denying God.” —A Course in Miracles Let’s not deny the Divine Light inside of one another by assuming the worst in each other. Some days, I need help finding my light. Other days, it will be you. We are all imperfect. So let’s point out the light inside of one another. It’s always there, even when it’s as small as a flickering, dying match. When the ego says, “They couldn’t be good,” find the good. When the ego says, “They deserve withholding of forgiveness,” forgive first. When the ego says, “They must have meant this by that,” leave space for love. Whenever you find an opportunity to feel bad, challenge yourself to LOVE deeper, harder, more, without ceasing. Hold the pose of grace. For one day, you’ll need someone to hold that pose for you too. #loveoneanother #forgiveness #acourseinmiracles #grace #unchurched #divinewithin #acourseinmiracles #interfaith #mystic #mysticism #forgivenessquotes #exvangelical #holdthepose #thefouragreements #enlightenment #enlightenmentquotes #fouragreements

Good men exist. Remember that. ❤️🥺🙏🏽 Emotionally mature men exist. Men who don’t hold you back exist. 🛑 So stop dating boys. ❤️ If you’ve ever dated or married older, share your experience with our community below! You never know, you could meet a soul sister who gets you and your relationship below!! 📸 photos by the fabulous @3petalsphotography #agegap #loveislove #AsIAm #lovequotes #agegaprelationship #datingadvice #datingmemes #maydecember #lafayettelouisiana

Don’t look at me,⁣
look with me.⁣
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Let’s go deeper.⁣
Let’s ask questions.⁣
Let’s demand better...⁣
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More love for all, for ⁣
our fullest selves and⁣
for everyone else. ⁣
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We are all the same⁣
and we are connected ⁣
to everything and everyone.⁣
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So let’s stop pretending⁣
we are okay with believing ⁣
someone else’s darkness ⁣
is so much darker than our own.⁣
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When we shame another,⁣
we judge ourselves. ⁣
When we perceive separation,⁣
we distance ourselves from ⁣
God’s all-inclusive love. ⁣
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Let’s accept all facets of ourselves⁣
so we can accept all of everyone else.⁣
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We will rise together if we can⁣
remember we are all from⁣
one source of Divine Love.⁣
❤️ I miss photoshoots like this sooooo much. When @robertcroak and I met, all we did was shoots — then we began focusing on video. But I miss this. Simple pleasures. Pizza. Champagne. Bubbles. My man behind the camera 📷
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#MadeOfLove #MadeFromLove #ShadowWork #embodiment #collectivehealing #risetogether #loveoneanother #affirmingchristian #seperationmentality #courseinmircles #loveislove #exvangelical #unityconsciousness #ikissedpurityculturegoodbye #progressivechristian #personaldevelopment #ChristianLiving #ProgressiveChristianity #FeminineEmbodiment #Sensuality #Femininity #Feminine

Sex is an energy exchange. 💦 It can be powerful in goodness or leave you feeling wonky. 👁 That’s why personal and sexual integrity is so important. ❤️ Listen to your heart and my newest podcast episode featuring @mymetaphysicalmaven to learn all about how crystals relate to sex, love, heartbreak, healing, and more! 💃🏻 The link is in the bio! 📸 photo by @duthework [image descriptions— first image: Sophia in red lingerie on bed pondering. next image: art by @elwingbling that says, “people look high and low but never think to look within.” next image: confession at church meme that shows woman confessing, “I’m sorry, Daddy, I’ve been a bad girl.” The priest responds, “For the last time, it’s forgive me, Father, I have sinned.” next image: billboard that reads, “sometimes the things that break your heart end up fixing your vision.”] #sexualhealing #heartbreakhealing #crystalhealing #halfhippiehalfbougie #vintagevibes #oldhollywood #humansexuality #enlightened #conscioussexuality #hearthealing #chakrastones #chakraalignment

In the end, only 3 things ACTUALLY matter:
1️⃣How much you loved
2️⃣How gently you lived
3️⃣And how gracefully you let go of the things not meant for you 🕊 Invest in what actually matters. Time is our greatest gift and resource so we should be smart enough to spend it on what will give us the greatest return, right? 💕 Even the smartest people get it wrong...I know I do. I get so caught up in work and productivity for hours a day — but all for what? 🤷🏻‍♀️ In the end, we could wake up and have it all, but who will be around us? The value and priority we place on our closest relationships ultimately determines the quality of our lives — not money, not status, not accomplishments — people. 💞 DO YOU AGREE? 📸 @yaboyyleo #whatmatters #introspection #lafayettelouisiana #lovequotes #lovewell #qualityoverquantity

There’s nothing wrong contemplating God under the chemtrails over the country club. ❤️ The deeper I go, the more I feel safe saying, “I don’t know.” All I know is LOVE is all that is real, so let’s stop pretending there’s anything else. 👁 Break free of the illusion. Open your heart. ❤️ Everything is not how it seems. 😬 Are you curious? #mysticism #progressivechristianity #marymagdalene #marymagdalenerevealed #contemplatinggod #lanadelrey #gnosticgospels #spiritualawakening

I’VE SPENT OVER 2k TRYING TO REMOVE A CHEAP TATTOO I REGRET GETTING AT 18. 😩 I was in my wild, “no one is going to control me stage,” and decided it was a smart idea to tattoo something permanent on my body because I was in a spontaneous mood. It was a musician’s heart, composed of a bass and treble clef on my lower right leg near the ankle, but just above enough to be awkward af. 🖤 NOTE TO SELF: DON’T DO IT GIRL BECAUSE I ALREADY DID IT. 🥲 If you don’t want something literally forever on your skin, don’t do it — because later IF you should change your mind like me and want it off, it’s very painful and expensive to remove by laser. ((Also, not hating on tattoos — if that’s your style, ROCK ON. 👏 But, it wasn’t authentically me and I did it for the wrong reasons to try to feel “cool” 🥲)) You know what’s not cool? Wasting over 2k on laser treatments for a $60 tattoo...it just wasn’t coming off for me, and I’m no quitter. People say just tattoo something over it...and they are missing the WHOLE POINT. 🙄I no longer want a tattoo PERIOD. One day I was having lunch with my friend, @victoria.glam, and she told me she could remove tattoos with SALINE. 🧐 Turns out, it costs about the same per session — but if you’re like me, your body might respond to saline rather than the laser better too (meaning maybe fewer sessions = less money potentially). 😅 So I gave it a go. I’m not sure how many sessions of saline it will take, but as many of you know — I’ve been slowly removing this tattoo for over 2 years and now she looks like a faded blob, so gosh darn it, she will come off! 🔪Follow the journey in my stories or aesthetics highlight. ✨ #lafayettelouisiana #lafayettela #tattooremoval #lafayette #victoriaglam #tattooregret #collegeregrets #musiciansheart #beautyknowsnopain #aesthetics #dontdoitgirl

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