“Dear Sophia” Showing Skin = Feeling Sexy & Feeling Shame…an Advice Episode

Dear Sophia, I get more “likes” when I show “more skin,” but get shaming messages. What do I do? 

Well, first let me say, I am not God, nor your intuition; but I can share my perspective on embracing your sensuality, creating art, sexualizing the female body, celebrating the female body, and shaming the female body…

So welcome to my first ADVICE Q&A EPISODE!

#LetMeEnlightenYou

As women, we are unfairly subjected to judgement for choosing to modify our bodies or abide naturally. As women, we are judged for being both too prude or for being too sexual.

Are you empowered by covering up or showing more skin?

Are you empowered by going natural or glamming up?

I don’t know about you, but I am here for it all. It just depends on my mood and my intuition.

Recently, a follower who was scared of losing her job for being “too sexy” emailed me and asked for advice…so I made a whole podcast episode sharing my perspectives on:

-Embracing all facets of your diamond, even your sexuality
-Feminine Embodiment
-The Judgement of Feminine Sensuality 
-Intentional Modesty and Social Media
-Balancing being an “Good” Influence and being a “Real” Woman
-Handling male gaze and male-inflicted shame
-Choosing what to post or not post on social media
-Allowing God to guide us individually in “what’s appropriate”
-Balancing a professional and real image

My life journey and personal beliefs have led me to develop a unique opinion on these topics, and I hope it lends some perspective to you, whether you agree with my words or not. In the end, only God is our judge and only we know in our hearts if we are honoring God through honoring ourselves. Be blessed and feel loved regardless of whether your story or perspective aligns with mine!

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I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul.

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Natalie Workman: He’s 25 Years Older Than Me — What an Age Gap Relationship is REALLY Like — AGE MATTERS.

Meet Natalie Workman, the the host of the Age Gap Realness podcast — a show that digs beneath the surface of what people assume age gap relationships are…Which is such important work to me because, just like Natalie, my boyfriend is over 25 years older than me.

What is an “age gap relationship”? A relationship that involves a large gap between the partners’ ages, in our cases over 25 years apart.

If you follow me on instagram (#ShamelessPlug @SophiaSpallino), you probably know am dating a very special fella, my sweetheart Robert Croak! What you might not have realized is that Robert is over 25 years older than me!  After falling in love last November, I felt super alone in this world of being a young, driven woman with an older man…it’s just not common and it’s sadly even looked down upon.

I feel like when people think of age gap relationships, they think of creepy, old guys with young, hot girls on a beach. That’s a far cry from age gap relationship real life. Most the time, it’s just like any other relationship real life, but this tainted perspective is all that’s popularized in traditional media, so I can’t blame anyone for their indoctrinated ideas. For the longest time, even though I knew the love between Robert and I is so special, pure, and real…I was afraid of what other people would assume.

Then I stumbled upon Natalie’s instagram and her Age-Gap focused podcast! Just like I share online, Natalie and her older fiancé Brandon, share so much of their lives through transparent instagram stories and podcasts. I saw there was a whole underworld of incredible people making power couple moves…all who happen to have age gaps!

While there are pros to being in an age gap relationship, there are trials that come with this lifestyle and partner choice. Natalie is an incredible, smart, and passionate girl that’s paving the way for other women to walk confidently if they so happen to be in our shoes. Walking side by side with a successful, older man are big shoes to fill, even though the world sees it as a walk down “easy street.” Believe me, Natalie would know because her fiancé, Brandon Dawson, is extremely prosperous and well-known in the business world…and that privilege comes with unique challenges. Through her blog and podcast show, Natalie is proving to the world that while LOVE IS AGELESS, AGE MATTERS, so we should live life to the fullest!

Although Natalie’s union with Brandon and my partnership with Robert isn’t “mainstream” yet, there are over 15 million other women out there dating older men too. So we aren’t alone as it may seem; we are just willing to live our lives out loud publicly. If I wouldn’t have stumbled upon Natalie’s show six months ago, I am not quite sure I would be as confident in sharing my relationship with my online audience as I am today. She’s not only shifting the perspective for women like me in age gap relationships, but how society views us as a group. In fact, I think in 20 years when more women stop playing around, trying to train boys and start dating real, grown men, Natalie will be credited for popularizing the age gap movement in a wholesome way that’s never been shown before. And I can’t thank her enough for displaying an honorable example of true, ageless love for the world to see.

Here are some of the hot topics Natalie and I discuss on Enlightened the Podcast:

-What are the some of unique challenges of being in an age gap relationship?
-What shifted your perspective to feel respected on your own?
-What advice would you give to a young woman who feels like college might not be for her, but feels pressure to go anyway?
-What’s your favorite thing about building an empire with Brandon Dawson? And what advice would you give to those who are thinking about working with their partners?
-Now rather than saying, “Age doesn’t matter,” one of your most popular quotes is “Age matters.” What do you mean?

Gratitude Self-Talk Pep Talk | Guided Affirmations with Harp Music to Cultivate a Thankful Heart

HOW ARE YOU SOOOOO HAPPY, SOPHIA?

I’m not always happy. But when I am, the answer is simple:

I practiced gratitude that day.

How does one practice gratitude? You just think of things you are grateful for now and find joy in the now. Stop reaching. Start breathing. Here. Now.

It’s not always easy to choose gratitude when life gets testy, but starting off the day and ending the day with gratitude makes everything flow better. Give it a try with my podcast!

I knew you could use a quick reminder to be thankful, so I created this self-talk pep talk about gratitude just for you.

Let’s cultivate grateful hearts by repeating these gratitude mantras together. I will play my harp music so you can relax, focusing on the words, the music, and your breath.

Feel free to download and save this recording 

so that anytime you feel even slightly out of alignment,

maybe feeling a little less than confident

or excited about being you…

you can snap out of it

by spending a little moment with me

to pause and remember how incredible this life actually is.

Depending on where you are, 

repeat these affirming thoughts 

verbally, repeating them in a mirror, preferably

as you gaze into your beautiful eyes (if possible),

or quietly repeat these affirmations in your heart.

Gratitude Mantras: 

I cannot earn what God gives to me freely

I am enough 

I am worthy 

I am grateful

I express gratitude because

I cannot earn what God gives to me freely

I have blessings

I have favor

I have enough

I have more than enough

I am worthy of 

peace

success

forgiveness 

abundance

joy

freedom

unconditional love

I am thankful for

peace

success

forgiveness 

abundance

joy

freedom

unconditional love

I love all that I have

I have all that I need

I love all that I have

I have all that I need

I love all that I have 

I have all that I need

I cannot earn what God gives to me freely

I am enough 

I am worthy 

I am grateful

I express gratitude because

I cannot earn what God gives to me freely

I have blessings

I have favor

I have enough

I have more than enough

I am worthy of 

peace

success

forgiveness 

abundance

joy

freedom

unconditional love

I am thankful for
peace

success

forgiveness 

abundance

joy

freedom

unconditional love

I love all that I have

I have all that I need

I love all that I have

I have all that I need

I love all that I have 

I have all that I need

I feel the warmth of God’s peace in my heart

as I express gratitude with a heart of thanksgiving

I am in alignment with my best self

the self that is grateful for all that is

All that is, is good for me

All that is, has unfolded for me

All that is, is okay

I am grateful for all that is

for all that has been

for all that will be

But mostly,

I am grateful for right now

Thank you

Thank you

Thank you, God

Thank you

Thank you

Thank you, God

Ah, doesn’t that feel better? 

Thank you for practicing gratitude with me! Cultivating gratitude requires daily intention, so play this podcast when you need to remember how blessed you truly are!

I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul.

Angie Lee: It Actually Pays to Be Brave | Female Entrepreneur – Law of Attraction – Supportive Relationships – Social Media Marketing and Sales

Meet Angie Lee, the serial entrepreneur behind the world famous podcast, The Angie Lee Show! She’s the self-made millionaire that’s paving the way for other women to follow in her footsteps by revolutionizing teaching marketing and sales online.

Angie is a genius affiliate marketer (aka she makes money from online referral sales), wellness influencer, 7 figure digital & physical product creator, top 100 ranked podcaster, speaker, and 7-figure marketing guru, helping other women make money sharing the things they love too! What began as a “silly idea” in her dorm room 9 years ago, turned into a wellness brand that helps thousands of women…and now a podcast with over 7 million downloads! She was one 100k in debt when she decided to just GO FOR IT and be BRAVE. 

In this episode of Enlightened the Podcast, you will hear me (Sophia Spallino) and Angie Lee discuss these topics:

-Why do I deeply connect with Angie’s message?
–Since listening to the Angie Lee Show, my life has been forever changed. I do brave things. I am a full time influencer, podcaster, and entrepreneur in product development!

-Why do women feel empowered listening to Angie teach?
–Angie is speaking to YOU. You were made for doing whatever you love.

-Is the entrepreneur path lonely?
–It can be, but not with the community Angie has created.

-What is the Baby Grandma squad?
–I love that Angie created a safe space and trendy word to call my old soul. Baby grandmas enjoy tea over shots of tequila, and goals over partying.

-What does Angie do that’s different than other influencers?
–Angie shared the real life of an entrepreneur before it was “cool” to show the raw, behind the scenes stuff.

-Angie Lee is famous for being a self-made millionaire and business coach, but is that a lot of pressure?
–Yes, there’s pressure to create content, but gratitude inspires her!

-Does having a man making you a “better” woman in business and life?
–We dare to say, “Yes…the right man does!” Can a strong independent female say that out loud? Oooops. Just did!

-Angie inspires women around the world to be brave and launch their own podcasts and services, but she doesn’t pay for ads. What’s her secret to attracting an audience and keeping them engaged?
–Create “Learn from me content” vs. “Look at me content”

-How important is taking care of yourself as an entrepreneur?
–Investing in self-care to be the best you is your “real job” as an entrepreneur.

You can’t serve others from an empty cup. How can you feel your cup?
–Get your cup filled at Angie’s party in San Diego! LET’S ALL GO TO PAYS TO BE BRAVE!

-What is the Pays to Be Brave conference?
–The #1 sales, marketing, and confidence event for female entrepreneurs
–Learn from incredible women you vibe with and “fill your cup!”
–Grow your business and your money mindset
–Hear from Angie Lee and other inspiring speakers

-When and where?
–Oct 4-6th, 2019
–San Diego, California

-Get Tickets HERE: http://bit.ly/paystobebraveee
–Come learn from Angie Lee and other amazing boss babes, and have a dance party with me and “Ohh My Annie” aka Annie Bardonski!

-Stay in touch with Angie Lee
–Angie’s Instagram: www.Instagram.com/AngieLeeShow
–Angie’s Podcast, The Angie Lee Show: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-angie-lee-show/id1178232410 
–Come with me to Angie’s Event, Pays to Be Brave: http://bit.ly/paystobebraveee
–Follow Angie Lee, and you will see…it DEFINITELY pays to be brave!

Celebrity Makeup Artist, Jessica Shakir: How to Live BEAUTIFULLY Inside and Out

Sometimes, it takes a desert’s stillness for us to hear from God. If you are feeling isolated and in pain, use this time alone to ask God, “What next? Use me where I am, however you please.” This is what Jessica did. Now, she is helping women blossom around the world!

Meet my dear friend and celebrity makeup artist, Jessica Shakir! She has discovered how to live passionately and on purpose despite physical pain…and she is showing others how to live a beautiful life, both inside and out! She has the joy, peace, and love of someone who appears to have a “perfect life,” but Jessica’s world was turned upside down when her back problems became unbearable chronic pain overnight, and she realized she couldn’t live her bicoastal life as a makeup artist on sets everyday.

Instead of sulking in the realization of all the things she “couldn’t” do, she started praying about what she “could do.” God has used her time of physical rest to build an incredible new career — being a beauty coach! Jessica has a gifting to draw out each woman’s beauty, revealing the innate radiance within every woman she coaches.

I cherished our time chatting together because she is a women of dignity, wisdom, and kindness that effortlessly flows from her heart. Jessica is the creator of www.MyBeautyBFF.com, where she coaches women around the world, both online and through workshops. She’s using her experience as a celebrity makeup artist for good, to influence women to love themselves the way God made them! I call her my “beauty bff” because she is such an encourager, always giving me the pep talks just when I need them in her Instagram videos…and if you listen to this show, you will get a pep talk right now!

In this episode, she shares how to live beautifully inside an out…and how to choose to walk in purpose rather than shrink back into the pain. Here are some topics that we discuss:

What it is like to work with stars?
How can pain and seasons of waiting be used for a bigger purpose
Helping others actually helps heal you
What is “Beauty BFF”?
The way the fruits of the spirit align with beauty

Cherie Rickard: Turning PAIN into Your PURPOSE!

Feeling like you can never recover from a great loss — a death, breakup, divorce, or a lost career?

Whatever is hurting you could be your fuel, but will you allow your pain to reveal your purpose? 

Meet Cherie Rickard, the host of the Podcast Radio Show “Real Girl Talk.” She’s also an author, speaker, medical professional, and a certified grief and empowerment coach! In fact, it was her dark season of grieving that led her to this life path of purposing to help others heal too! She is determined to live out loud and thrive in God’s purpose for her life. I call her my instagram mama because she is such an encourager, always giving me the pep talks just when I need them in her Instagram videos…and if you listen to this show, you will get a pep talk right now!

In this episode, she shares how PAIN REVEALS YOUR PURPOSE and how to choose to walk in purpose rather than shrink back into the pain. Here are some topics that we discuss:

How does grieving effect our relationship with God? 
Why you might not “be ready” to heal?
How could our pain be used for a greater purpose?
How does helping others aid in healing yourself?
What steps of grieving would you encourage others to prepare for?

“Your strength will come from settling down in complete dependence on God” ~Isaiah 30:15

We believe it’s our responsibility to share how God has healed our hearts, and although I have not experienced a loss like Cherie, I know what pain feels like. Truly, my greatest loss was the loss of “what I imagined my life would be like” — the picture of marriage and a family I had in my mind being shattered by my divorce…and my healing came through picking up the pieces and teaching others how to heal too. I was only one step ahead in healing, but that’s all I had to be to inspire others.

That’s all you have to do too — be one step ahead. Put one foot in front of the other. You are strong enough to overcome!

Your Bag is Secured! Restitution is Coming — An Encouraging Word from Sophia and a Guided Manifestation Meditation with Harp Music

Are you blocking your blessing? Get into receptive mode with this guided medition and forgiveness prayer. Your restitution is coming!

THE BAG IS SECURED. 

God already bought it.

But are your hands free to hold it?

Or are you clinging to bitterness?

ARE YOU BLOCKING YOUR OWN BLESSING?

ARE YOU POSITIONED FOR RESTORATION, BABY GIRL?

What is Restitution?

This is a beautiful word that describes what takes place when a child of God sees her season of restoration. Your day of restitution is coming. God’s promises to you will never fail.  It may take some time. It might look different than we expect. But if your heart is ready to receive and your connection to Source is undiluted with bitterness, your restitution will come. 

But Sophia, that relationship stole from me.

I lost that business opportunity that was supposed to be mine!

If it weren’t for _______________, I would have ___________________.

It makes me sick. I feel you. It’s happened to me too.

BUT I HAVE THIS HOPE AS AN ANCHOR FOR MY SOUL…

I believe people reap what they sow, karma, whatever you choose to call it. I believe that God doesn’t sleep. I believe your tears grieve the heart of God. I believe the Creator cares. I believe God keep promises even when our human perspectives can’t make sense of it at all. 

BUT…You have to be in receptive mode.

Are you clinging to “what should have been” instead of looking ahead?

…even when I feel my love, heart, time, and resources were “stolen”…

…even when the situation doesn’t “deserve” forgiveness…

…even when it doesn’t look like I’m getting what I think I am “owed”…

I choose forgiveness…I choose to let go and let God work. 

Let’s find forgiveness in our souls and check our hearts through meditation, prayer, and manifest restitution together.

Here are our guided meditation affirmations:

I am grateful for now.

I am grateful for breath.

I am grateful for all that has happened that has led me to now. 

I am grateful for now.

I am grateful for breath.

I choose to be present now.

Now is good. 

I am satisfied with this very breath. 

I release all bitterness. 

Now think of whoever you need to forgive now, and with every breath…let go a little more…Reflect love onto every being that has caused you hurt and pain. Breathe in and extend love. Focus on who you need to forgive and breathe out grace.

I forgive all,

even myself.

I forgive myself for not living up to how I imagined I would be. 

I accept me, where I am at. 

I forgive all,

even myself, especially myself.

I love all.

I love myself. 

God loves me. 

Physical loss is an illusion, so I choose not to feel loss, regret, or stolen from.

Choosing to sit in peace, in presence, in the perfection of what is…is my choice, and I choose love. 

All feelings of loss come from my misunderstanding and my physical self — for the realest part of myself, I realize, is my spirit. 

All is well with my soul.

I understand that what is for me, will come to me, is already with me, so I do not worry. 

I am at peace. 

I radiate peace.

I am at peace with myself and with all.

Restitution is mine, even if I cannot see it now. 

My physical perception is limited, but I choose to trust that restitution is mine.

Life unfolds as it should, so I do not worry.

What is meant for me is already mine.

I am joyful to know that of myself, I can do nothing; but with Spirit, I am  guided in all that I do.

I feel the weight come off my shoulders.

I release control to God.

Restitution is here. 

All is well. 

I hope you feel better now. Be strong and of good courage! 

THE BEST IS YET TO COME. RESTITUTION IS REAL. RESTITUTION IS YOURS.

Believe it: “The light is coming to give back everything the darkness stole.” 

We go from glory to glory, Sister, so get your heart prepared for restitution!

Inner & Outer Beauty, an ASMR Makeup Tutorial

I am here to affirm you with my words, play my harp to ease your mind, and create nostalgic sounds with makeup ASMR that will help you rest. You can listen to help you fall asleep or simply calm down if you’re feeling on edge. Sink into bliss. This moment of spiritual and self love ASMR is yours.

I hope listening to sounds that are associated with being a woman and self-care will help you embody your femininity and embrace taking care of yourself. You deserve to take care of yourself, in whatever way that looks like and feels good for you.

I love purposing to care for my appearance, so makeup relaxes me. I purpose to look lovely on the outside because on earth, we look at the outside when we look at each other. We get to choose how we adorn our earthly temples. I choose to use makeup in that way.

But what makes a women truly beautiful? Everyone can have their own definition and own their own story. But I think character traits are what make a woman truly beautiful. I think embodying femininity at its fullest is beautiful. To me, that’s someone who walks tall with dignity, being a strong force of love, and someone who leads with integrity…

A woman who is disciplined, and dedicated to walking in awareness — that’s a beautiful woman. Someone who purposes to possess the fruits of the spirit: love, joy, peace, gentleness, self-control, patience, goodness, kindness, and faithfulness. That is my definition of beauty. 

Makeup is just a way to adorn our earthly shell. And it’s fun. So can we enjoy this moment together? 

Wonderful. Lean in and listen.

Angel Mariah: How to live Vibrantly and Wisely at Any Age!

Angel Mariah’s wisdom and intentional healthy lifestyle will inspire you to be the best version of yourself, mind, body, and spirit! We believe it’s our responsibility to bring light everywhere we go, to put smiles on the faces of those around us, and to share the unconditional love of God. 

In this show, we talk about eating life-giving foods and explore different types of intuitive plant-based diets, like vegetarian, vegan, and flexitarian lifestyles. Why? …Because we believe there is a major spiritual component to eating! Intuitive eating is TOTAL FREEDOM. 

Lastly, we talk about honoring 8 secrets that are vital to a healthy lifestyle. We believe being disciplined in our spiritual and physical regimens is the way to lead a healthy, long, and peaceful life!

Feeling Rushed and Overwhelmed? Mantras to Help You Stop Rushing and Wasting Life

Feeling like a hamster on the wheel of life? You were born to do more than just pay bills and die. Life is meant to be enjoyed! If you feel rushed and overwhelmed, I created these self-care mantras just for you! I hope you take time to practice speaking these words over yourself because life is too short and your energy is too valuable to rush. Don’t let one moment be wasted in worry. Take it all in. Embrace all of your senses and be present in all that you do. Don’t rush life.