Past Episodes

WE BROKE UP — THIS IS WHY: I AM A LESBIAN — SOPHIA AND ROBERT’S BREAKUP STORY

ROBERT & I BROKE UP.

The raw video you are about to see or podcast you are about to listen to began as a video I recorded for myself to document my journey and my reasons why I am doing what I am doing. I knew I’d have to look back on it when I feel sad and maybe begin to question my reasons.  

I recorded this on November 19, 2021, three days after I made a very big decision to leave Robert, a man I have loved for three years, after coming to the realization that I just can’t live a life that’s a lie.

In full disclosure, I truly believed I was bi my entire life…until the weekend of November 12th when I finally met the beautiful woman who I cultivated a very deep connection with for 44 days…this wasn’t a meet her and hookup thing. It was a real relationship with someone who is very special to me (and Robert absolutely gave me permission to do so). 

I experienced “everything” with her, and on our third day together, I had a panic attack because a veil was lifted and I looked at my desire and heart honestly. When the truth clicked, there was no going back…I knew in my body and soul, I was never truly s*xualy attracted to men and I just didn’t know the difference before. (Hello, Comphet! Google it…). 

As for romantic attraction, I truly believed I was attracted to men in that way, which would still make me technically bisexual — but even if that WAS the case, I now realize I have zero desire to ever have a romantic relationship with a man ever again. It was always platonic…and I never knew it until I felt the opposite. 

Why? On Sunday the 14th, I had an awakening, a “Come to Jesus” moment that I cannot deny. To deny this realization would make me a liar. And I haven’t lied…I truly didn’t KNOW what it felt like to be in love with a woman, as I’ve only had crushes before. 

I knew the moment this precious woman picked me up at the airport with flowers that something was drastically different in my tummy. I was too nervous to even turn to look at her gorgeous face and make eye contact. For the first time in my life, I wanted to touch a human, everywhere, and had to restrain myself. I’ve never felt that way before. These were butterflies of intense attraction to one another that I’ve never felt before with a man. 

I simply never looked at a man like I NEEDED to devour him like a piece of chocolate cake…and here I was looking at a lady like I have never looked at a man, feeling things I never felt for a man, and my body responding in a way it’s never responded to a man. 

By Sunday, I came to the devastating realization that I’ve only ever loved a man like a friend…my whole life played like a movie in my head, going fast, swirling, and pausing at evidence for me to understand I’ve always been this way. I had never felt s*xual desire FOR men, just a desire to connect sexually because — hello — libido. 

What I can promise you though, is with Robert, it was DIFFERENT. Our relationship was better than any other I’ve had. For the first time in my life, I felt cherished and respected by a man. I felt SAFE. So yes, I enjoyed every minute of our s*x life — but again, I didn’t desire a man like I now KNOW in my bones I desire a woman. I simply didn’t know the difference. 

With all this being said, Robert deserved honesty. So I sat with myself in panic from Sunday to Tuesday…came home…and Wednesday, the 17th, I told him the truth. I was about to say it out loud when he beat me to the punch. He knows me so well that HE TOLD ME THE TRUTH with a question mark. “You’re a lesbian, right?” I lay in the bathtub watching our entire lives for three years flash before my eyes. I saw every hope and dream burn up and I was the one who dropped the match. I felt my stomach get queasy with the abandonment he must be feeling. I felt sick for hurting him in the worst way. I also felt a weight come off my shoulders. I said it out loud. I spoke my truth. 

This all happened so fast. Why? Not telling him after coming to the realization only 4 days before would make me a liar by withholding information — to him, to you, to everyone. Not telling him would be wrong because he deserves a woman who looks at him like chocolate cake. Robert understands and is grieving. I’m sad to lose our deep friendship too, but confident we can remain friends. We will never stop caring for one another. 

So here I am telling you — I realize I am a lesbian …and I want to exist openly and proudly. Please show me grace. This has been a very emotional time. But I know in my soul, this is the only decision I could make that honors me, my truth, Robert, and the world.

🥺Sophia 

NEW YEAR’S DEVOTIONS with Rev. Sydney Finn — The Secret to Setting & Accomplishing Goals with Ease — Setting Boundaries — Woo Woo Manifestation Tips — Spirituality — Sexuality — Personal Development —

The process of reaching your goals *could* be filled with pleasure, not pain. Tired of failing at New Year’s Resolutions? You’re not alone. Allow Reverend Sydney Finn to inspire the DEVOTION required to get into alignment and usher in the new year (and every new day) with ease. 

My dear friend Reverend Sydney Finn is here on Enlightened for an encore! Words alone will never be able to fully capture or describe the work of Reverend Sydney Finn. Being a gifted intuitive since childhood, she navigated a severely abusive and traumatic upbringing which led her to pursue psychology and other healing modalities. After quickly recognizing the limitations of psychology, she found herself undergoing professional training as a psychic and intuitive healer. Today, she is an intuitive guide, speaker, podcast host, and group facilitator.

After conducting thousands of intuitive readings worldwide with clients on 6 continents, she now leads people to their highest potential, energetic optimization, and supports her audience in making a masterpiece of the lives they lead. While her emphasis is on energetic mastery, her work is centered around connecting to your own spirit, sacred desires, and unique relationship with God. She is the bridge between your current experience and infinite, limitless possibilities.

You can find more support in learning about boundaries and how to say  “No” on Sydney’s podcast, Sunday Messages. The episode you should listen to is titled, “No.” Lastly If you would like to indulge in our first episode together, back when Enlightened was such a different podcast when I just started, find my episode entitled “Getting into Tarot Cards and the WooWoo World of Spirituality.” Without further ado, let’s bask in the wisdom that is Reverend Sydney Finn…

 

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This episode covers topics like:

  • Ushering in the new year successfully 
  • What happens after “death” and between lives?
  • Consistency over aggressive short-term action
  • Going general rather than specific
  • The secret to success: devotion > motivation and alignment > effort 
  • Allowing the process of creation to be fun and pleasurable
  • Foggy vision vs clear vision manifestation 
  • BDSM and kinks
  • People pleasing (specifically as women to feel safe)
  • Normalizing saying NO and setting boundaries

Stay in touch with Rev. Sydney Finn:

 

It’s time to set yourself FREE, Lovely One! 

I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul. If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here.

Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime.

With infinite love and gratitude, I pray that peace be with you. xo Sophia 

 

“A CULT COVERED MY BODY, BUT NOW I AM EMBODIED” with Amanda Rose — Healing from Purity Culture & Modesty Indoctrination — Feminine Embodiment — Spirituality — Sexuality — Personal Development —

Many of us have experienced the damaging effects of religious indoctrination, and hearing the stories of others help us feel less alone and heal just a little bit more. In this episode, Amanda Rose shares how a cult forced her into intense modesty and purity culture as a child, how this has effected her sexuality as a woman, and how she is healing. May this sweet soul be a mirror revealing that you too have the power to love your body, feel safe in your sexuality, and feel whole, regardless how  traumatic, sheltered, or confining the past may have been.

Amanda spent her childhood on a family farm in Florida, where she was raised by a very loving and dysfunctional family. Think… “The Yearling” meets “The Waltons” meets “Cheaper By The Dozen” meets “Duck Dynasty”…and you’ve basically got it! When she was 12 years old, her family moved to Central America. That’s where this hillbilly of a gal was plunged deep into a cult and was subjected to rigorous religious brainwashing. Psychological, spiritual, physical, and emotional abuse…she knows it all too well. Amanda sunk into a dark well of patriarchal purity culture and oppressive submission dogma to put it mildly. 

Her adolescent experiences in Central America and in the religious cult spun the narrative that women were not to be trusted, especially with men or in relationships. A woman’s body was dangerous at best and property at worst, and sex was just to meet a mans “needs.”  Her journey out of that cult and through her healing path has been wild and crazy, but it’s led her to where she is now.  Today Amanda works with women who are ready for the initiation into their feminine radiance, and sovereign, embodied self leadership in the three arenas of: 

– sexuality and embodied sensuality 

– healing from trauma on a somatic and quantum level 

– rewilding your soul and reconnecting you to your wombspace

 

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This episode covers topics like:

  • saving sex until AFTER marriage (even after the wedding night)
  • going from modesty culture being covered from head to toe to loving her body fully 
  • what’s it like to be indoctrinated into a cult in your teenage years
  • “safe sex” is more than just about physical protection, but emotional connection 
  • spiritual abuse and oppression over women 
  • the harmfulness of purity culture and conservative Christianity
  • how purity culture and submission teachings/dogma affects your marriages, honeymoons, and sex 
  • what is sexual embodiment? 
  • how can sexual embodiment help women heal that are coming out of purity culture? 
  • the common thread between orgasm and worship

Stay in touch with Amanda:

 

It’s time to set yourself FREE, Lovely One! 

I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul. If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here.

Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime.

With infinite love and gratitude, I pray that peace be with you. xo Sophia 

 

GOD DOESN’T HATE GAYS with JeGAYsus — Evidence of Gay Lovers in the Bible — Experiencing Gay Conversion Therapy — Queerness in Religion — Deconstructing Christianity — Spirituality — Sexuality

Were there really queer lovers in the Bible? Is being gay a sin? Maybe you’re deconstructing & want to know. Maybe you’ve deconstructed completely & don’t care what the Bible says anymore. Either way, it’s great to know your facts because if you actually read your Bible & do the research, God doesn’t hate queers…Just ask Je-Gay-Sus!

Jegaysus (he/they) the popular TikToker, coined “The King of Queens.” He uses his voice, and his unique looks (his gorgeous head of curly hair, exotic eye makeup, and rainbow “Biblical attire”) to discuss deep, controversial theological topics. I love his content because he takes concepts and stories from the Bible that people think they know all about (because we may have never questioned the stories we were spoon-fed since we were indoctrinated children in Sunday school), and spills the tea by putting the sacred text into context of historical times as well as digging into the archives of mistranslations that were often strategically placed by men with hidden agendas to oppress marginalized people, like women, queers, and people of color.  Known for his sassy sense of humor and flamboyant gay pride, Jegaysus is an icon of the larger evangelical deconstruction movement who inspires his audience to think critically, ask hard questions that offend the blindly indoctrinated, and question everything they have ever been taught. 

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This episode covers topics like:

  • Religious trauma to self love journey
  • Coming out gay as a child in the church
  • Experiencing GAY CONVERSION THERAPY
  • Defending yourself against Christian clobber verses a
  • Was Mary Magdalene even a prosititute?
  • Evidence that Jesus isn’t against homosexuality
  • Homosexuality and same sex couples in the Bible
  • Tiktok advice

Stay in touch with Jegaysus:

 

It’s time to set yourself FREE, Lovely One! 

I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul. If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here.

Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime.

With infinite love and gratitude, I pray that peace be with you. xo Sophia 

 

“COULD THE LAW OF ATTRACTION WORK FOR ME?” with Lindsay Atkinson — Law of Assumption — Healing Generational Trauma — Manifesting Love, Money, & Freedom — Personal Development —

There are people out there living your dream life…so why not you too? Lindsay Atkinson is living proof that the law of attraction is always working. May this sweet soul be a mirror revealing that you too have the power find peace in the present, take inspired action, and create a beautiful future, regardless how messy, traumatic, and hopeless the past may have been.

Lindsay Adkinson is a full time creator aiming to guide you on your journey to self improvement and personal growth. She cares deeply about realistic manifestation, mental health, trauma healing and putting in the work to live the life you dream of. You are worthy of healing, love, and abundance too. I pray this episode inspires you to believe in your deservingness and take action on your dreams.

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This episode covers topics like:

  • Going from living in a trailer park to living her dream life in NYC
  • Healing generational trauma (sexual and emotional abuse trigger warning)
  • Putting in the work using our favorite spiritual tools
  • Manifesting love, money, and freedom
  • Believing in the law of attraction and the law of assumption
  • Setting boundaries with people who have hurt us
  • Creating a manageable routine of daily healthy habits
  • Living in the present moment to find peace now
  • Growing as a social media influencer and becoming a full time creator

Stay in touch with Lindsay:

 

It’s time to set yourself FREE, Lovely One! 

I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul. If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here.

Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime.

With infinite love and gratitude, I pray that peace be with you. xo Sophia 

DATING, DESIRE, & SEXUAL INTEGRITY with Kat Harris — Purity Culture vs. Hookup Culture — Sexual Ethics — Dating Advice — Personal Development — Spirituality —

If you’re caught between purity culture & running free like a wild, liberated woman, trying to navigate dating and sexual integrity…this episode is for YOU. In this episode Kat Harris & I talk about sex, lack of sex, sexual ethics, & personal boundaries!

Enlightened friends, it’s been a while since I have had a progressive Christian voice on the podcast. If you didn’t already know, I am a spiritual, but not religious girl, who has deconstructed (and is still deconstructing) from Christianity. I promise today’s guest is incredible, open-minded, full of love, and wisdom.

Kat Harris is the host of The Refined Collective Podcast, and Co-Founder of the online publication The Refined Woman. The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ, Forbes, People, Who What Wear, US Weekly, Glamour UK, and more. She coaches and equips women all over the world in dating, relationships, singleness, sexuality, faith and how to build a renewed and healthy biblical sexual ethic rooted in freedom, truth and grace as opposed to the oh-so-common shame and fear narratives so many experienced growing up in evangelical culture. Ultimately, her vision is for women to know their beauty, identity, worth and value and to experience untapped freedom and joy in their lives regardless of their relationship status. Kat’s book is incredible, and I want to share the synopsis…because this will give you a little clue of what this episode will be all about:

A b o u t  “S e x l e s s  I n  T h e  C i t y”

“Let’s face it: being single in today’s culture as a woman of faith can be a struggle fest. But it doesn’t have to be. With real talk and straight wisdom, speaker, podcaster, and founder of The Refined Woman Kat Harris says it’s time for a new conversation about singleness, sex, and desire. 

Growing up at the height of the purity movement, Kat knew this much: good Christians don’t have sex until marriage. But approaching 30 and thrust into the New York City dating scene, she found a set of rules was not a compelling enough reason to keep her clothes on. Caught between purity culture’s rules and popular culture’s do what feels good, Kat began a multi-year journey searching for answers to the biggest questions about sexuality and faith.”

 

This episode covers topics like:

  • What is sexuality and who does it belong to
  • How to deconstruct negative ideologies surrounding your sexuality
  • What is sex and how do I know if I’m ACTUALLY abstaining from it
  • How to identify physical boundaries in dating without falling into legalism, fear, or shame
  • How modern research and science proves there’s no such thing as casual sex 
  • The “Disgust Response” and why you need to know about it!
  • How to develop a holistic & healthy sexual ethic 
  • Positioning yourself for a long term relationship or whatever you really want rather than settling for crumbs 
  • The instant ‘spark’, the ‘one’, and the truth about lasting intimacy 
  • How to know if he’s emotionally unavailable or only looking for a casual fling 

 

Stay in touch with Kat Harris:

 

The love of God inside of me honors the love in you. Namaste, My Friends.

I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul.

If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here.

Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime.

With infinite love and gratitude, I pray that peace be with you. xo Sophia (@SophiaSpallino on Instagram)

ASTROLOGY YOU CAN ACTUALLY UNDERSTAND with Debra Silverman — The Missing Element — Beginner’s Guide to Astrology — Personal Development — Spirituality —

Exploring astrology as a tool to learn more about yourself and others can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be. Debra Silverman breaks astrology down into the four elements, much like nature, and everything just makes sense. Finally. Sheesh!

Debra Silverman is part astrologer, part psychologist, part comedian and ALL REAL. She helps people turn on their own inner observer, to see the things they say and do in a totally objective way. Over the past 40 years of private practice, Debra has helped thousands of individuals achieve emotional health and wisdom based on their unique personality and the four elements: water, air, earth, and fire. Debra’s mothering approach to understanding people has earned her international fame and admiration. 

I was always that kid that stayed inside while the groups of other kids went out to play…all because I wanted to hang out with the moms. Now that I am exploring my sexuality and realizing I have always had an affinity for older men and women, this is all making sense, but that’s another story for another day. All this to say, since discovering Debra on Instagram, I see her as the super cool hippie mom we all want to stay in, and hang out with, because she can make you feel seen and give you real, actionable advice based on the stars. I always feel like she is talking right to me and she knows what she’s talking about because she talks about astrology in a way that is easy to comprehend. 

This episode covers topics like:

  • A Beginner’s Guide to Astrology
  • How do the elements of nature help people better understand their lives and their astrological charts and overcome challenges? (fire, water, air, earth)
  • Discovering your missing element
  • Why psychology and astrology are best friends? (tools and not rules)
  • How can astrology be used to address the climate crisis?
  • Accessing ancient wisdom to heal planet earth

Stay in touch with Debra Silverman:

It’s time to set yourself FREE, Lovely One! 

The love of God inside of me honors the love in you. Namaste, My Friends.

I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul.

If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here.

Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime.

With infinite love and gratitude, I pray that peace be with you. xo Sophia (@SophiaSpallino on Instagram)

SKINCARE ROUTINES & SELF LOVE: WHAT THE BEAUTY INDUSTRY DOESN’T WANT YOU TO KNOW with Cassandra Bankson — Skincare Secrets — Skincare Myths — Plastic Surgery — Personal Development —

Learning to love the skin you’re in isn’t always easy, especially in a society that hates aging and acne. BUT, duality is an illusion. You can take care of yourself, and still be a feminist, sovereign woman. However, it’s so important to understand WHY we feel the need to enhance our skin and bodies, as well as HOW to take care of our skin and begin an affordable, maintainable routine. Before you read any further, you should know that not one recommendation is sponsored or MLM. We aren’t here to sell you a dang thing. We are sharing this conversation because trying to figure it all out on our own can be time consuming, and frustrating (especially when you’re wasting money on expensive products that aren’t working for your own skin). So let’s learn from Skin-spert Cassandra Bankson!

Typically, I talk with guests about mindset, inner peace, self love, spirituality, overcoming religious trauma, relationships…but many of you follow me on Instagram where I am always talking about my skincare and aesthetics regimens. Yall know I am spiritual and a whole-lot bougie when it comes to self care! So far on IG, everyone gets really into the non-sponsored products I share in my stories, which is fun because I found products that are FINALLY working for me, and I am happy to share what I have spent years researching, with trial and error so you don’t have to. I so appreciate that people come to me for advice, but I am not an aesthetician, so I invited my favorite SKIN EXPERT on Enlightened the podcast! I have followed her since I was 22, and I am now 29! In fact many of my everyday products, I learned about from from her.

My radiant guest is Cassandra Bankson! She is a YouTube vlogger, online personality, social media powerhouse, model, writer, spokesperson, and activist with an online audience of over 2 million across all digital platforms. She is best known as a skincare expert who once struggled with severe chronic acne as a teen model–and her honest, authentic, and vulnerable videos depicting her skincare journey have empowered her to use her platform as a positive disruptor in the beauty industry. As a medical aesthetician and industry expert for the past decade, she works alongside dermatologists and and acts as a liaison— breaking down complicated medical jargon to her over 2 million followers online to help explain the products, procedures, and treatments in ways that anyone can understand and apply to their own beauty routines. Today, Cassandra continues her work delivering science-based skincare and acne videos, where she educates and inspires her audience, promoting self love and acceptance.

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Today’s show covers topics like:

  • Going from self loathing to self love 
  • Being a model and influencer while managing adult acne
  • Why she posts edited AND raw images
  • The benefits of choosing AFFORDABLE skincare 
  • Learn about your skin type and the products it craves
  • Best advice for each skin type (dry, moderate, oily, and acne-prone skin)
  • Summer skincare vs winter skincare
  • The dangers of aesthetic medical procedures like boob jobs and butt lifts
  • Skincare advice for dry, combination, and oily skin
  • The correlation between mental health and skincare 

Stay in touch with Cassandra:

It’s time to set yourself FREE, Lovely One! 

The love of God inside of me honors the love in you. Namaste, My Friends.

I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul.

If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here.

Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime.

With infinite love and gratitude, I pray that peace be with you. xo Sophia (@SophiaSpallino on Instagram)

LEAVING A STRAIGHT MARRIAGE & CHOOSING A LESBIAN RELATIONSHIP with Haylee Benglan — Polyamory — Monogamy — Female Entrepreneurship — Two Moms — Personal Development — Sexuality —

What is it like to come out of a straight marriage with children, THEN choose a lesbian relationship? Curious about non-traditional relationship dynamics and living beyond the hetero-norm? Let’s listen to Haylee Benglan’s beautiful love story!

While exploring my sexuality, I have realized there is still SO MUCH more for me to learn because for so long, I suppressed my sexuality and even avoided learning about the gay experience for many years of my life (out of religion-induced fear, and fear that I might kiss a girl and like it). Now that I am aware, I am committed to breaking down this internalized homophobia by learning and hearing other’s stories. That’s why today’s guest is so special, and I can’t wait to share her “straight marriage to queer love” story and what it’s like to be a lesbian mother.

Haylee Benglan is a bi-sexual woman whose mission is to empower others to choose their own happiness and be BRAVE in every area of their lives! She’s a passionate entrepreneur with a giving spirit and a no-nonsense, yet positive toward life. Haylee and her wife, Paige, have become Instagram influencers, known by their hashtag #TwoMoms. Together they have an apparel and gymnastics company, Be Brave, that inspires women, especially mothers to be brave and raise brave children.

Today’s show covers topics like:

  • Leaving an abusive marriage and being a single mom
  • Coming out after being married to a man
  • Being one of TWO moms and co-parenting
  • Choosing your OWN happiness
  • Exploring polyamory
  • Loving and accepting your sexuality
  • Being in a lesbian relationship and being a mom
  • Using the word “NO” more often and setting boundaries
  • Living out loud regardless of fear as a queer woman in business

Stay in touch with Haylee:

It’s time to set yourself FREE, Lovely One! 

The love of God inside of me honors the love in you. Namaste, My Friends.

I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED, the podcast by me, Sophia Spallino, an audible experience that leaves you feeling at peace, encouraged, and in touch with your soul.

If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here.

Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime.

With infinite love and gratitude, I pray that peace be with you. xo Sophia (@SophiaSpallino on Instagram)

Loving the Wounded & Understanding your Triggers with Anna Stromquist & Kristina Wiltsee of  “This Spiritual Fix” — The 5 Primal Wounds — Ho’oponopono — True Forgiveness — A Course In Miracles — Abandonment — Rejection — Injustice — Betrayal — Humiliation — Personal Development — Spirituality

Want wisdom and tools to help you evolve into a better version of yourself and bring out the best in others?  Allow Anna and Kristina of This Spiritual Fix to teach us about managing the 5 primal wounds, and how practicing forgiveness can better every day life in any relationship.

 

Here’s a little about my guests, Anna and Kristina, who host my personal favorite podcast, This Spiritual Fix…

If you saw Anna on the street, you would probably say that she has a lot going on. She could be chasing after her bulldog puppy,  dressed to the nines for no reason at all, or wearing scrubs after seeing clients in her private healthcare business. When she isn’t juggling her million-and-one interests, she is laughing with her handsome older husband, or playing hide-and-go seek with the kids. Anna is a projector (who provides the guidance to the duo), a Leo (with a Scorpio moon – oh no!), and an Activity-sorter who lives without fear of being seen as weird by her family members, who lovingly tolerate her interests in aliens, angels, and enlightenment. Her coaching sessions delve into past-life regressions and inner-child healing.

When first meeting Kristina you may be a little annoyed with her uncanny ability to read your mind. Once you realize there is nothing in there that she hasn’t already seen in her own mind (or in someone else’s), then you feel the freedom of not being judged for any of the things you do — or even think. When Kristina is not gardening on her farmland (possibly naked), chanting to the moon (also, possibly naked), or on a work-call (hopefully, not naked) she is writing one of her self-help books or novels, or teaching her kids to listen to their heart-voice instead of their mind-voice. Kristina is a generator (human design: who provides the energy to the duo), a Pisces Taurus ascending, and a Systems sorter (NLP: a mixture of Activity, information and place) who thinks her husband is smokin’ hot. Kristina gives intuitive reading sessions —where you can ask questions or receive guidance and coaching, or just better embrace the bigger you.

Today’s show covers topics like:

  • Understanding “symptoms” of each of the 5 primal wounds:
    • Abandonment
    • Rejection
    • Injustice
    • Betrayal
    • Humiliation
  • How to recognize each wound within ourselves and others
  • How to communicate effectively and efficiently by understanding the primary primal wounds of our loved ones
  • Realizing forgiveness heals all, while healing you
  • How the Ho’oponopono forgiveness method heals yourself and others
  • Understanding the concept of “true forgiveness” from A Course In Miracles

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